Dear Reader,
As you know I have not been writing on my blog lately. College takes a lot out of you! So I have seen a lot in college and there was a huge fight on campus about religion. I know the election has just recently been popular and I wanted your opinion.
Now this fight was about religion. There were Christians (I believe) walking around and praising Jesus with signs that said "God is great" and stuff like that. Then I came across a sign that said, "Homosexuals, hell is waiting". Then there were the Atheists who were arguing about how God doesn't exist. Personally I'm Hindu and I don't believe in all of this, but I want to know what you guys, my readers, tend to believe.
Do you think it is right people to be like this with their religion or should they just stop? Should people be able to express their religion? And if so, should EVERY religion that is practiced be able to express themselves the same way?
Alyssa :)
Thursday, October 18, 2012
Thursday, September 13, 2012
Brand Name vs. Generic Brand
Dear Reader,
A question came to me about the difference between name brand and the generic brand. To that reader, here is you answer.
The truth is...there really is no difference. The only reason want the brand name item is, well, because it is known as a "brand name" item. The generic brand is just as good and even better most of the time. Let's take a T-shirt from Abercrombie & Fitch. The basic T-shirt, with just their name on it...is about $24. I mean, come on, are you really going to pay twenty-four dollars for a shirt that you might wear for at most a year. I could spend less than that to buy a plain shirt and the letters and sew them together. It would probably last longer too.
When deciding between buying a generic brand or brand name, remember this: How long are you really going to have it? Is it something that you're going to use forever, like a phone, or something that you will use temporarily, like toilet paper. There are certain times to get brand name and certain times to get generic. And as I explained above, brand name is better for the items that are permanent and generic is better for the items that are temporarily used. I hope this answered your question.
Alyssa:)
A question came to me about the difference between name brand and the generic brand. To that reader, here is you answer.
The truth is...there really is no difference. The only reason want the brand name item is, well, because it is known as a "brand name" item. The generic brand is just as good and even better most of the time. Let's take a T-shirt from Abercrombie & Fitch. The basic T-shirt, with just their name on it...is about $24. I mean, come on, are you really going to pay twenty-four dollars for a shirt that you might wear for at most a year. I could spend less than that to buy a plain shirt and the letters and sew them together. It would probably last longer too.
When deciding between buying a generic brand or brand name, remember this: How long are you really going to have it? Is it something that you're going to use forever, like a phone, or something that you will use temporarily, like toilet paper. There are certain times to get brand name and certain times to get generic. And as I explained above, brand name is better for the items that are permanent and generic is better for the items that are temporarily used. I hope this answered your question.
Alyssa:)
Thursday, September 6, 2012
Dear Reader: Help!
Dear Reader,
Okay, well today I am going through a dilemma. I need your help. For the purposes of anonymity I will not use names.
Well a friend of mine made a promise to me that they would not do drugs or anything bad like that. They told me yesterday that they smoked a hooka and I was mad. They broke a promise, so I believe I had a right to be angry. Then I find out from this friend's girlfriend that he has been giving girls piggy back rides and almost puts his arm around girls. She gets jealous and I don't really know what to tell her. He seems like he wouldn't do that, but life changes people.
What should I tell her? Obviously, I have an opinion, but I would like to hear from you, reader. Please comment your thoughts and opinions and I'll get back to you. Thanks.
Alyssa :)
Okay, well today I am going through a dilemma. I need your help. For the purposes of anonymity I will not use names.
Well a friend of mine made a promise to me that they would not do drugs or anything bad like that. They told me yesterday that they smoked a hooka and I was mad. They broke a promise, so I believe I had a right to be angry. Then I find out from this friend's girlfriend that he has been giving girls piggy back rides and almost puts his arm around girls. She gets jealous and I don't really know what to tell her. He seems like he wouldn't do that, but life changes people.
What should I tell her? Obviously, I have an opinion, but I would like to hear from you, reader. Please comment your thoughts and opinions and I'll get back to you. Thanks.
Alyssa :)
Sunday, September 2, 2012
Time Managing: Everyone Has to Do It!
Dear Reader,
I apologize for the lack of posts, but college has started and I have been very busy. This topic will discuss time managing, which is something all of will have to do one day or another.
Right now I am having to manage my social life with my educational life. It's not easy. I am taking six classes and am taking an online course program. I also have a boyfriend and I have parents and grandparents, and the rest of my family that says they "need" to hear from me everyday. I'm not going to lie, it's hard. I mean, why wouldn't it be? There is always one thing or another that makes you struggle with basic things. What should you do?
Get a schedule
This was the first thing I did. I got myself a planner that was strictly meant to help me keep track of classes, assignments, and projects. Not only that, but it also helped me manage any family events or calls that I needed to attend; it also helped keep track of doctor's appointments, etc. This helps you keep better track of where all your time is going and where you can manage to switch things around. When I got a planner, the first thing I did was put all the due dates for all my homework for college and the online program (making sure to include projects and exams). After, I wrote in all the family events and personal events (doctor's, dentist's, etc.). If you are working or have interviews and meetings, put all that information in. If you have kids, put their schedule and information down in case an emergency pops up and you need to rush out and get them.
Stay Organized
I know this is cliche, but you have to stay organized. There's a difference between saying and doing. Don't just say you're going to follow the planner and don't even look at the thing for two years! Stay organized and keep with it. Don't lose papers and files that could cost you your grade or job. Don't forget meetings and appointments that are important. Create folders, make special boxes, file information, create a schedule with sticky notes, etc.
Give and Take
Okay, now I don't always day this, but sometimes you have to give some time to get some time. For example, say you have an exam on a Thursday and you know that you have to study or else you will fail, but you have no time because you have to study for other exams. Well, study for the classes you really need to study for and spend less time studying for the ones you don't really need to study for. See, there is always something you a give time to and take time away from.
There are many ways for people to manage time. It is important that we understand this. Do you really want to be known as the "sloppy one"? I don't. Trust me, if you do these simple things it will remove so much stress from your life. You might even find out that you have time to spare! Take my advice and enjoy the benefits!
Alyssa :)
I apologize for the lack of posts, but college has started and I have been very busy. This topic will discuss time managing, which is something all of will have to do one day or another.
Right now I am having to manage my social life with my educational life. It's not easy. I am taking six classes and am taking an online course program. I also have a boyfriend and I have parents and grandparents, and the rest of my family that says they "need" to hear from me everyday. I'm not going to lie, it's hard. I mean, why wouldn't it be? There is always one thing or another that makes you struggle with basic things. What should you do?
Get a schedule
This was the first thing I did. I got myself a planner that was strictly meant to help me keep track of classes, assignments, and projects. Not only that, but it also helped me manage any family events or calls that I needed to attend; it also helped keep track of doctor's appointments, etc. This helps you keep better track of where all your time is going and where you can manage to switch things around. When I got a planner, the first thing I did was put all the due dates for all my homework for college and the online program (making sure to include projects and exams). After, I wrote in all the family events and personal events (doctor's, dentist's, etc.). If you are working or have interviews and meetings, put all that information in. If you have kids, put their schedule and information down in case an emergency pops up and you need to rush out and get them.
Stay Organized
I know this is cliche, but you have to stay organized. There's a difference between saying and doing. Don't just say you're going to follow the planner and don't even look at the thing for two years! Stay organized and keep with it. Don't lose papers and files that could cost you your grade or job. Don't forget meetings and appointments that are important. Create folders, make special boxes, file information, create a schedule with sticky notes, etc.
Give and Take
Okay, now I don't always day this, but sometimes you have to give some time to get some time. For example, say you have an exam on a Thursday and you know that you have to study or else you will fail, but you have no time because you have to study for other exams. Well, study for the classes you really need to study for and spend less time studying for the ones you don't really need to study for. See, there is always something you a give time to and take time away from.
There are many ways for people to manage time. It is important that we understand this. Do you really want to be known as the "sloppy one"? I don't. Trust me, if you do these simple things it will remove so much stress from your life. You might even find out that you have time to spare! Take my advice and enjoy the benefits!
Alyssa :)
Thursday, August 23, 2012
Reality TV Shows
Dear Reader,
This is topic is something that I've wanted to discuss for awhile, but I never really knew how to go about with it. So instead, I'm just going to throw some thoughts out there and you tell me what you think.
Okay, well we've all seen a reality TV show at one point...whether it's Teen Mom, Jerseylicious, Animal Cops, or even the Jersey Shore. Some are really pointless and some break your heart.
Take Jersey Shore for example. All they do is party, fight, and have sex. There is drama and pointless arguing and fake relationships. I've watched a few episodes to see what the hype was all about, but seriously? I kept watching and thinking, "Are people really entertained by this? THIS??" Now, I get that sometimes it's funny to watch people fight and get drunk, but can't you go outside and experience that firsthand? What do you think people would want to hear, "Dude, these chicks I saw last night got so drunk and broke out in a catfight" or "Hey, Sammie and Ronnie broke up again"? I watch in awe and think, "This is a result of the indictment of the American Education System".
Now there are those shows that have an impact on you. Like Animal Cops. When I see those cops and the animals that they save, it makes me happy and mad. I'm happy because they saved the poor animal(s) and I'm mad because the person who does that crap to the animal doesn't even get punished most of the time. I don't understand, if you don't want the animal then take it to a shelter!!!! Don't abuse it or neglect it, chances are it'll lash out at you or someone else because of your negligence. I am completely against animal cruelty and I hope you guys all are too and if you're not, watch Animal Cops and then get back to me.
Like I said, some reality TV shows are really, REALLY pointless and some are really moving. Some are educational, and some remind you to keep that stuff in the bedroom. Either way, please do not become a mindless zombie by watching dumb shows like Jersey Shore and Teen Mom. You are sending the wrong message to everyone, unless you're doing it to feel better about yourself then go for it!
Alyssa :)
This is topic is something that I've wanted to discuss for awhile, but I never really knew how to go about with it. So instead, I'm just going to throw some thoughts out there and you tell me what you think.
Okay, well we've all seen a reality TV show at one point...whether it's Teen Mom, Jerseylicious, Animal Cops, or even the Jersey Shore. Some are really pointless and some break your heart.
Take Jersey Shore for example. All they do is party, fight, and have sex. There is drama and pointless arguing and fake relationships. I've watched a few episodes to see what the hype was all about, but seriously? I kept watching and thinking, "Are people really entertained by this? THIS??" Now, I get that sometimes it's funny to watch people fight and get drunk, but can't you go outside and experience that firsthand? What do you think people would want to hear, "Dude, these chicks I saw last night got so drunk and broke out in a catfight" or "Hey, Sammie and Ronnie broke up again"? I watch in awe and think, "This is a result of the indictment of the American Education System".
Now there are those shows that have an impact on you. Like Animal Cops. When I see those cops and the animals that they save, it makes me happy and mad. I'm happy because they saved the poor animal(s) and I'm mad because the person who does that crap to the animal doesn't even get punished most of the time. I don't understand, if you don't want the animal then take it to a shelter!!!! Don't abuse it or neglect it, chances are it'll lash out at you or someone else because of your negligence. I am completely against animal cruelty and I hope you guys all are too and if you're not, watch Animal Cops and then get back to me.
Like I said, some reality TV shows are really, REALLY pointless and some are really moving. Some are educational, and some remind you to keep that stuff in the bedroom. Either way, please do not become a mindless zombie by watching dumb shows like Jersey Shore and Teen Mom. You are sending the wrong message to everyone, unless you're doing it to feel better about yourself then go for it!
Alyssa :)
Wednesday, August 22, 2012
Pregnant Teens: Are you Serious?
Dear Reader,
This is a topic everyone knows about, but not really discussed. I am going to give you my complete and honest opinion. Unless you have been raped, you should not be a teen mom!
Look, I know that when you are a teenager your hormones run high and you see this guy and think, "Oh my god I want to have sex with him". Girls, sometimes there's a guy that says he'll love you no matter what and that if you had sex with them then he would stay with you after. You know that almost 98% of those guys are only wanting to get in you and then never call you back. And if you get pregnant and he doesn't want to help support you, then you're shit out of luck right? There is less than 0.01% of men out there that can deal with caring for another man's child.
Honey, you are suppose to be finishing your education! You are suppose to be getting a great job, making a name for yourself that is worth mentioning, not "pregnant teen mom". Are you serious? I don't care what anyone says, you are worth more than that. You are better than just laying on your back and taking it. You can become something.
Please, please, do not have a baby just to get money from the government. You won't even be able to use that money if you're pregnant and complaining that your feet hurt, or you're always hungry, or you look fat.......are you serious? If you're worried about getting fat, then don't get pregnant!!!!
I understand that if you have been raped, that's a different story. There is nothing that could make you forget that and a baby is a constant reminder of the event that took place, but a child is still a blessing.
Look, even if you do have a child don't take them for granted. Don't abuse them or do anything that you would regret later. Here's an article on what a mother did to her child that is unforgivable:
http://sanfrancisco.ibtimes.com/articles/167991/20110622/microwave-baby-killer-mom-arrested-jailed-bail.htm
If you are a pregnant teen and do not want to keep the child, you can willingly give your child away. Hospitals have this program where you have 48 hours after the child's birth to willingly give them up for adoption. Please, don't make the mistake of thinking killing a baby or dumping it in a trashcan, will take the problem away. That would be something you have to deal with for the rest of your life. Instead, give the child up and someone who is unable to have children would give the child a better life. That person might not be able to have children and you just completed their world.
To all the teenagers out there, do not have sex while you're young, unless it is somehow part of your religion. To all the pregnant teens out there...please be smart and not make the same mistake twice. Men, keep that thing in your pants.
Alyssa :)
This is a topic everyone knows about, but not really discussed. I am going to give you my complete and honest opinion. Unless you have been raped, you should not be a teen mom!
Look, I know that when you are a teenager your hormones run high and you see this guy and think, "Oh my god I want to have sex with him". Girls, sometimes there's a guy that says he'll love you no matter what and that if you had sex with them then he would stay with you after. You know that almost 98% of those guys are only wanting to get in you and then never call you back. And if you get pregnant and he doesn't want to help support you, then you're shit out of luck right? There is less than 0.01% of men out there that can deal with caring for another man's child.
Honey, you are suppose to be finishing your education! You are suppose to be getting a great job, making a name for yourself that is worth mentioning, not "pregnant teen mom". Are you serious? I don't care what anyone says, you are worth more than that. You are better than just laying on your back and taking it. You can become something.
Please, please, do not have a baby just to get money from the government. You won't even be able to use that money if you're pregnant and complaining that your feet hurt, or you're always hungry, or you look fat.......are you serious? If you're worried about getting fat, then don't get pregnant!!!!
I understand that if you have been raped, that's a different story. There is nothing that could make you forget that and a baby is a constant reminder of the event that took place, but a child is still a blessing.
Look, even if you do have a child don't take them for granted. Don't abuse them or do anything that you would regret later. Here's an article on what a mother did to her child that is unforgivable:
http://sanfrancisco.ibtimes.com/articles/167991/20110622/microwave-baby-killer-mom-arrested-jailed-bail.htm
If you are a pregnant teen and do not want to keep the child, you can willingly give your child away. Hospitals have this program where you have 48 hours after the child's birth to willingly give them up for adoption. Please, don't make the mistake of thinking killing a baby or dumping it in a trashcan, will take the problem away. That would be something you have to deal with for the rest of your life. Instead, give the child up and someone who is unable to have children would give the child a better life. That person might not be able to have children and you just completed their world.
To all the teenagers out there, do not have sex while you're young, unless it is somehow part of your religion. To all the pregnant teens out there...please be smart and not make the same mistake twice. Men, keep that thing in your pants.
Alyssa :)
Monday, August 20, 2012
Long Distance Relationships
Dear Reader,
Now this is something that everyone knows about, but doesn't always go through. I got a question about whether or not long distance relationship are good or bad. Well, there are pros and cons to it. My boyfriend and I are currently in the middle of a long distance relationship. I am still here and my boyfriend is at San Jose State studying biomedical engineering. Now, it's hard not being able to see him everyday like we used to, but I still Skype and FaceTime him everyday and we text each other. Those simple things makes your partner feel so good because they know you're thinking about them.
There are times when, in a long distance relationship, you start suspecting your partner's loyalty to you. There have been stories where people have cheated, but there are also stories where they don't. Unfortunately, people tend to focus more on the negative than the positive.
If you are in a relationship where your significant other has cheated on you, then I have one thing to say...WHY ARE YOU STILL WITH THEM? If you are in a long distance relationship and have zero trust in them, then dump them. Why lead someone on and why hold yourself back from finding someone near you that's possibly "the one". Let me tell you it takes a strong couple and an even stronger relationship to handle the distance.
Take it from me, I've gone through a long distance relationship. I dated a guy who was all the way up in northern California. That's about 5-8 hours away from me. I thought that it would work out, but the truth was, after awhile, I hardly knew the guy. He completely changed and, to top it all off, he had his eye on another girl (whose name I will not disclose no matter how much I want to). She didn't know about me. She was such a sweet person when I met her, and now looking back, I see what he saw in her. They broke up about a year later, the world works in great ways sometimes. The point is, our relationship wasn't strong enough to handle the distance.
Now, I'm in a relationship. We've been together for two and a half years. He just left for San Jose State University two days ago and I miss him, but I trust him so much that I know he wouldn't do anything wrong to hurt me, just as I wouldn't do anything wrong to hurt him. Skyping and texting are one of the major tools that keep us in contact.
If you're in a long distance relationship, don't stress yourself out. You only need to answer three questions: (1) Do you trust your significant other, (2) Is your relationship strong enough to handle the distance, and (3) Is this relationship worth it? If you are doubtful about ANY of these answers, you need a serious chat with your partner. If you are too worried about what they will say or any issue, come to me and I will be super happy to help you out in any possible way!
Alyssa<3
Now this is something that everyone knows about, but doesn't always go through. I got a question about whether or not long distance relationship are good or bad. Well, there are pros and cons to it. My boyfriend and I are currently in the middle of a long distance relationship. I am still here and my boyfriend is at San Jose State studying biomedical engineering. Now, it's hard not being able to see him everyday like we used to, but I still Skype and FaceTime him everyday and we text each other. Those simple things makes your partner feel so good because they know you're thinking about them.
There are times when, in a long distance relationship, you start suspecting your partner's loyalty to you. There have been stories where people have cheated, but there are also stories where they don't. Unfortunately, people tend to focus more on the negative than the positive.
If you are in a relationship where your significant other has cheated on you, then I have one thing to say...WHY ARE YOU STILL WITH THEM? If you are in a long distance relationship and have zero trust in them, then dump them. Why lead someone on and why hold yourself back from finding someone near you that's possibly "the one". Let me tell you it takes a strong couple and an even stronger relationship to handle the distance.
Take it from me, I've gone through a long distance relationship. I dated a guy who was all the way up in northern California. That's about 5-8 hours away from me. I thought that it would work out, but the truth was, after awhile, I hardly knew the guy. He completely changed and, to top it all off, he had his eye on another girl (whose name I will not disclose no matter how much I want to). She didn't know about me. She was such a sweet person when I met her, and now looking back, I see what he saw in her. They broke up about a year later, the world works in great ways sometimes. The point is, our relationship wasn't strong enough to handle the distance.
Now, I'm in a relationship. We've been together for two and a half years. He just left for San Jose State University two days ago and I miss him, but I trust him so much that I know he wouldn't do anything wrong to hurt me, just as I wouldn't do anything wrong to hurt him. Skyping and texting are one of the major tools that keep us in contact.
If you're in a long distance relationship, don't stress yourself out. You only need to answer three questions: (1) Do you trust your significant other, (2) Is your relationship strong enough to handle the distance, and (3) Is this relationship worth it? If you are doubtful about ANY of these answers, you need a serious chat with your partner. If you are too worried about what they will say or any issue, come to me and I will be super happy to help you out in any possible way!
Alyssa<3
Thursday, August 16, 2012
Do People Change?
Dear Reader,
As you know, there is always someone out there who is struggling with a relationship or has a tough person in their life in general. I mean, come on, we all have that one person that we look at and think, "Grow up already". You always think that it's just a phase and that person will grow out of it. But do people really change?
People never change. That's it, plain and simple. You think that they will, but don't get your hopes up. There is always an essence of their past that they will never ever let go of. I'll give you a personal example. I have a friend, who in this story we will call J, that has been in love with the same girl since kindergarten. He is in college now and still loves that girl, but she only considers him a friend because she believes he is still very immature (which I do think so too). He makes very sexual remarks and messes with girls like those obnoxious jocks in the stereotypical high school movies. I've tried telling him that he needs to accept the fact that she will not acknowledge him unless he changes, and let me tell you, this is a constant issue between us.
I thought J would never change. He got on my nerves so much, but you need to understand that I thought that if he truly loved this girl, he would change. J never listened until one day, I saw talking to the girl he had been crushing on, and she was completely flirting with him! Eventually, when I got a chance to talk to him, I said, "I told you that if you change yourself then she would really like you". The next thing he said blew me away (probably because it was the deepest thing he had ever said in his life. He said, "No, you're wrong. I didn't change myself. I told her that I have liked her since I was kindergarten and I hope that she felt the same and would let me take her out to dinner, but she refused because she said I was too immature and that once I 'grew up' she would think about it. I told her that this is who I am and I am not changing for anybody, even the girl I love. If she doesn't accept me, then she's losing out on a guy that truly loves her".
People, what he said changed my point of view forever. People never change, that's true, but it is also true that there is someone out there who accepts who as you are. Your friends, your true friends I should say, are the ones who accept your flaws and stay with you no matter what. The people who know you best, will be the ones that want you to stay your fantastic self. So be who you are and accept it because if you can't, then no one will.
Alyssa :)
As you know, there is always someone out there who is struggling with a relationship or has a tough person in their life in general. I mean, come on, we all have that one person that we look at and think, "Grow up already". You always think that it's just a phase and that person will grow out of it. But do people really change?
People never change. That's it, plain and simple. You think that they will, but don't get your hopes up. There is always an essence of their past that they will never ever let go of. I'll give you a personal example. I have a friend, who in this story we will call J, that has been in love with the same girl since kindergarten. He is in college now and still loves that girl, but she only considers him a friend because she believes he is still very immature (which I do think so too). He makes very sexual remarks and messes with girls like those obnoxious jocks in the stereotypical high school movies. I've tried telling him that he needs to accept the fact that she will not acknowledge him unless he changes, and let me tell you, this is a constant issue between us.
I thought J would never change. He got on my nerves so much, but you need to understand that I thought that if he truly loved this girl, he would change. J never listened until one day, I saw talking to the girl he had been crushing on, and she was completely flirting with him! Eventually, when I got a chance to talk to him, I said, "I told you that if you change yourself then she would really like you". The next thing he said blew me away (probably because it was the deepest thing he had ever said in his life. He said, "No, you're wrong. I didn't change myself. I told her that I have liked her since I was kindergarten and I hope that she felt the same and would let me take her out to dinner, but she refused because she said I was too immature and that once I 'grew up' she would think about it. I told her that this is who I am and I am not changing for anybody, even the girl I love. If she doesn't accept me, then she's losing out on a guy that truly loves her".
People, what he said changed my point of view forever. People never change, that's true, but it is also true that there is someone out there who accepts who as you are. Your friends, your true friends I should say, are the ones who accept your flaws and stay with you no matter what. The people who know you best, will be the ones that want you to stay your fantastic self. So be who you are and accept it because if you can't, then no one will.
Alyssa :)
Welcome All!!
Welcome to Inferno!
This is a blog where you can ask anything you want and I will give you the answer or my opinion with the best of my knowledge. This opinion or answer is just my personal thoughts, that doesn't mean you have to listen or care! Trust me, if you are being ridiculous I will tell you. After all, this is meant to give you the harsh truth.
Anyways, I'll post random blogs about various topics. I'll answer all your questions here and if you have a topic that you want to discuss in private, just email me and I will post the answer in this blog and leave the questioner anonymous.
Get ready for the harsh truth. More to come!
Alyssa :)
This is a blog where you can ask anything you want and I will give you the answer or my opinion with the best of my knowledge. This opinion or answer is just my personal thoughts, that doesn't mean you have to listen or care! Trust me, if you are being ridiculous I will tell you. After all, this is meant to give you the harsh truth.
Anyways, I'll post random blogs about various topics. I'll answer all your questions here and if you have a topic that you want to discuss in private, just email me and I will post the answer in this blog and leave the questioner anonymous.
Get ready for the harsh truth. More to come!
Alyssa :)
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